I put off doing anything with the cup when I get up I’m the morning and decide to sort out breakfast to keep the kids out my way.
Taking it out goes OK, I get cleaned up and as I’m putting it back in one of the kids cry out in pain. So I quickly finish putting the cup in and run down stairs hoping that I feel it pop open on the way.
Clearly I didn’t put the cup in anywhere near right as its starting to make its way back out and as I sort things out downstairs I realise quickly that I need to sort out my downstairs!
I get back to the bathroom and take it out, clean it and put it back in.
Again today I’ve been out but not at work so I’ve kept a sanitary pad on for extra back up just in case. So far this has been a waste and all it has done is remind me how hot and sweaty pads are!
There isn’t anything else to report about day 3. I feel I’m getting the hang of this and my period is usually pretty quick so that’s probably me for another month.
Thought this may be easier broken down into times throughout my day.
7am been up with the kids for 10 minutes or so and now I’m ready to see if I can get my menstrual cup out. I was surprised how little I felt it through the night.
So into the bathroom I go and start fishing. I’ve got to admit I thought it would be much more difficult than it turned out to be. I was probably a bit further inside myself than I had been before but I found my cup straight away. I couldn’t get it out by pulling the stem so I panicked for a second and then remembered reading that you could break the seal and take out by pinching the bottom of the cup. I’m only using a femmecup lite so when I squeezed the cup (probably heavy handed due to lack of experience) it came out slightly squashed. I found myself slightly disappointed that there wasn’t much in it. But then I realised why. I had spilled on the way out and the tops of my legs had a lot of blood on them. But this wasn’t going to set me back I jumped in the shower to clean up.
Now an important point I found is don’t allow your children to be anywhere near when you are trying to insert the cup for the first few times. This is an added stress that I didn’t need! I suddenly forgot all the positive feelings I had for the cup and forgot how to insert it and became a flustered mess. (Locking children out the bathroom solved this problem)
I decide I’d have faith and wear only a pantyliner for protection, 10 minutes before I left I upgraded to a sanitary pad!
11am I’m at work and it’s a public toilet. I’ve chosen the toilet that is usually quieter. But of course today it’s busy. There is only one toilet and I’m relieved that no one comes in the whole time I’m at the toilet.
Now this time I really start to panic, I can’t find the cup. When I calm down I remember to push my pelvic floor muscles to bring the cup lower. This works and I find it. I had no idea it was so big up there. The cup was at the side of my finger, had I moved a millimeter the other way I would have felt it. Then I remembered I’ve pushed 2 babies out of there, of course it’s bigger than my one index finger!
I wipe the cup out as I’m not brave enough to go the the sink in case someone comes in. And it also looks like I might have murdered someone. I reinserted the cup easily, wash myself up and think I’ve mastered this already!
2.30pm – time for another freshen up. Oh no I really have lost the cup this time. I start to plan what I’m going to do. It can stay in and I’ll wear protection as back up anyway so I’ll be fine. Then I remember to squat a bit and push my pelvic floor muscles. Suddenly I feel the cup and start to remove it. This time it’s really slippery and I can’t get a proper grip. Eventually I do and I get it out. I contemplated not putting it back in but since I’m in a public bathroom and I don’t have anything to put the cup in I decide its better going back where it came from! Inserting is easy now with the 2nd fold I tried.
6pm come home, start dinner for the kids and go to empty the cup while dinner cooks and they play. I think I’m A bit cocky this time at removal since I’m at home and making a mess isn’t as much of an issue now. So I squat a bit, use my pelvic floor muscles and go fishing for the cup again. Now one thing I never read was it isn’t one of the best ideas to push your pelvic floor muscles when you to need to pee. Let’s just say my hands got a little wet!
10pm freshen up for bed which passed with no real difficulty.
It’s the end of my first full day using a menstrual cup and I think I may be converted already.
Throughout the day I’ve felt slightly more menstrual cramps than usual, but I’ve been having more cramps than normal this month prior to my period so I don’t feel I can blame the cup.
Inserting the cup is definitely getting easier, and the only way I can explain knowing when it’s open and in place is a popping feeling. (You will know it when it happens)
So I found I’m desperate to try my cup. So I try to do the fold that’s shown on the leaflet that came with it. The cup folds really easily but I can’t get it inserted before it pops open.
I think I tried 3 times with this fold and it wasn’t happening. Looking at that picture now I can see that you need to hold the folded cup and get that inside you along with the fingers (or just your fingers, someone else’s would be just odd!).
I ended up trying this fold and have to say it worked first time.
I didn’t manage the rotating it to make sure it was open though. About 10 minutes later I felt an odd feeling and assumed that must be the cup opening. For the next 2 hours I fought the urge to check if it was working. However I did check my underwear was dry at least every 10 minutes. It’s just as well the kids were in bed! Would have been a bit hypocritical since all I keep saying to them is keep your hands out your pants! (Clearly I have boys)
At about 10pm the cup had been in just under 2 hours and I thought I’d check it worked and clean the cup before bed. I put my fingers inside and felt for the cup. It was relatively easy to find and not too difficult to take out. I couldn’t grip the stem so I pinched the bottom of the cup slightly and pulled. I think I spilled a bit on the top of my legs (definitely do this with no pants or trousers on until you get the hang of it)
Right time for the ultimate test was I brave enough to sleep with it in. This would be when I thought it would be most likely to work too far up! Decided it was better to find out in the morning before work than at work that I couldn’t get it back out!
Ok so I’ve been looking at getting a menstrual cup for a while. But it’s not an easy decision.
First there is the sizing, which do I go for? I’m 30 with 2 young children. So that means I should be going for a bigger size. I think my pelvic floor is quite strong and I know my cervix sits high so should I get the smaller size? Or do I just not want to admit that I might need a bigger size?
Then there is the cost. What if I spend £20 and then don’t like it? As a single parent I don’t really want to be wasting the money to stick a bit of silicon up me once (and that’s if I can even get it up there!)
So I started looking at eBay. Now I’m all into saving money but just to be clear I was not looking for a used menstrual cup. That seems wrong on so many levels. But then I read that some suppliers may not use medical grade silicon, then I read that medical grade silicon doesn’t exist. No wonder this becomes confusing!
In the end I gave up and decided I’ll not bother it’s too much hassle.
A few days passed and I found myself searching for a menstrual cup again. I decided I had to just go for it and buy one.
Now I had to decided which one? There are so many to choose from! And do I buy a cheap one on eBay that’s only a few pounds. But this is something I’m sticking up inside me. So thats how I decide I’ll buy a recognised brand from a reputable company.
But then which one to get, after days and days of researching I decided to go for the femmecup lite. It’s recommend for women under 30, with no children, who haven’t tried a cup before, who want a softer cup to start with and who want to try a cup without spending loads. Well 3 out of 5 is a start. (I still couldn’t accept my age and having children meant I should use a bigger size)
So with about 3 weeks until my next period and my cup ordered, femmecup lite I had read the instructions. I was ready. Then I started to look online for tips on how to insert this!
Now I don’t know how I found out but I ended up on a page that discussed cups getting stuck. That’s it I changed my mind again. I wasn’t using this thing!
But everytime I see it in my bathroom eagerly awaiting my period I think maybe I’ll just try it once.